Acceptance does not come easy

I was reading a book (sorry I forgot which one!) who quoted the below about acceptance:

“Radical acceptance is the willingness to experience ourselves and our life as it is. A moment of radical acceptance is a moment of freedom.” (Tara Brach, 2003, Radical Acceptance).

Something else that I’ve read (this time I remember the book! It is “Mindfulness for busy people” by Michael Sinclair and Josie Seydel) about acceptance is: Don’t try to fight your negative thoughts as, by doing so, you are giving them even more importance. Just notice them and accept them. By turning your brain to “accepting” mode, you are preventing it to be on “worrying” mode.

Personally, I have recently started to include a lot of “acceptance” in my daily practice of meditation or when I practice mindfulness (Warning: mindfulness and meditation Continue reading “Acceptance does not come easy”

Week #4 – Unpacking boxes vs. boredom

Nothing much to note this week my friends.

I was not really tempted by alcohol because I was busy unpacking boxes after the move (first week in the new place!) or assembling furniture or doing a bit of DIY (although I used to love feeling like a manly man with a beer in my left hand and my Bosch drill in my right hand).

Being busy is obviously a very good coping mechanism to be able to stay sober and also not to think about your anxiety. There is nothing wrong with that but at the same time, I am not a big fan of the thought of “I need to be busy not to feel anxious and not to feel like drinking”. Because, obviously, I am not busy all the time.

So what happens when I am not? Continue reading “Week #4 – Unpacking boxes vs. boredom”

Week #3

After the difficult week #2, I am happy to say that week #3 was better:

  1. My anxiety got better.
  2. Work got less boring.
  3. My wife gave me a head massage (!!!!) – I should have called my blog “a year with daily head massage and no booze”.
  4. My mum came over to help us with the move,
  5. And yes, we moved to a bigger place in the suburbs with a small garden! Wooo!

Being busy with something such as the move is a great coping mechanism to feel better and to be less tempted drinking alcohol. I was busy all weekend with unpacking, assembling #%#!& Ikea furniture, Continue reading “Week #3”

Being sober and facing difficult situations

20170613_182339.jpgOver the past few days, I had to face a couple of situations which are typically the situations where, before I started my challenge of not drinking for a year, I would have drunk more than necessary. To make it easier to face the situation. To feel more relaxed.

It started with a dinner with my mother-in-law. Yep. I used to always drink a couple of glasses of alcohol while having lunch of dinner with her. There were instances where I would even drink a whisky before going to meet her.

To give you a bit of context around my mother-in-law, the first time I told my wife that I always drink when I am with her mum, my wife replied: “That is a very good idea.” But obviously it is not. It is Continue reading “Being sober and facing difficult situations”

Week #2 – Panic attack!!

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Oh boy… what a week…

And not in a good way.

Not like when you say “Oh boy! What a week! On Monday I went to the gym. On Wednesday I fought against a grizzly bear. On Friday I got promoted.”

I felt tense from Monday morning as soon as I woke up. Even after I did 10min morning meditation sessions, I would still feel stressed every morning. Sometimes I would even do 2 or 3 meditation sessions on the same day. No real impact. Even though I did some pleasant activities (working on an interesting side project with a friend, meeting with a group of friends on Tuesday, etc.), it did not really help. Tension in my chest. Tension in my stupid head (self-improvement 101: don’t call your own head “stupid”). Anxious thoughts and Continue reading “Week #2 – Panic attack!!”

Week #1

Week 1 done! Easy peasy… 51 more weeks to go.

How did I meditate you’re asking? I meditated very well, thank you very much.

I started a 15-day course called “Surrender”on the Insight app that I mentioned last week. You start with 10min of meditation and you will finish with 25min on day 15. You can also find the sessions on the website of the teacher (or whatever you call the person talking during the meditation). I had already done her other 10-day course around gratitude. I started with the “gratitude” course as Continue reading “Week #1”

A Year With Daily Meditation And No Booze: Let’s Go!

Oh boy.

Where do I start?

I have been trying to reduce my consumption of alcohol. That’s a good start. Mainly because I am trying to lose my beer belly. That being said, if I am being honest with myself, it is also because I have been wondering whether I was drinking a bit too much.

Yep usually if you start asking yourself this type of questions, deep down you probably already know the answer.

Let’s have a look at my behaviour:

Continue reading “A Year With Daily Meditation And No Booze: Let’s Go!”