For probably the first time since I am sober, I had a typical “night out” with two friends with the typical “night out” ingredients: a nice bar, dinner, catching up, talking about our current joy and problems, laughing out loud, late train back home and drinks…
Nobody ever said that these drinks needed to contain alcohol but for some reason we convinced ourselves that they should be. We always think we might be bored, uninterested or even uninteresting if we don’t drink alcohol while going out.
And to be fair, since I stopped drinking, I have been wondering “would I still be able to enjoy a night out with some of my friends without the alcohol?” or “how will I be able to stay in a bar until 1am and talking with people who had cocktails, wine, beer, spirit?”
The other night gave me a nice answer: as long as I enjoy the company of these people, as long as I like hearing about their life, as long as I enjoy talking to them about my life, as long as I like listening to their advice or making plans with them, then I will be ok. Alcohol is not a necessary ingredient in this type of relationship.
And the next morning, when I woke up after 4 hours sleep before going to work, do I need to tell you how happy I was I did not drink?